I Don’t Believe in Long Distance Relationships—and Here’s Why


I used to think I was the problem.


Every time I heard someone gushing about how they made long distance “work,” I’d smile politely, but inside I was screaming, How?!


I’ve tried. Once. Never again.


It started out romantic, in that movie-like way. Endless texts, midnight videocalls, care packages with handwritten notes. For a while, I thought I was living in a Pinterest board.


But slowly, the glow faded. Not because we stopped caring—but because distance changes things. The excitement of “I miss you” turned into the frustration of “You weren’t there.” Phone calls weren’t enough. We started miscommunicating over the tiniest things. The lack of physical presence started to feel like emotional absence, too.


I missed the little stuff. Grabbing coffee. Arguing about what to order for dinner. Watching shows side by side in silence. You know, the everyday moments that aren’t grand, but matter so much. Love, for me, lives in proximity.


And I know people say, “If it’s real, the distance won’t matter.” But maybe—if it’s real, you’ll find a way to be close.


So no, I don’t believe in long-distance relationships. Not because I think they can’t work. But because I’ve learned I need connection I can touch, feel, and experience—not just through a screen.


If you're in one, and it's working, I truly respect it. But as for me? I choose presence over promises.


-Amity Rose-

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